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Being well liked is what most people want in relationships. The benefits are obvious. You will get the help you need at the time you need it. People will give you information about new opportunities you didn’t know before. Above all, they willreallycare and love you.
But how could you get other people to like you? How could you become a well liked person? There is actually just one simple rule to follow:you should like other people before they like you. When people realize that you like them, it’s very likely that they will also like you.
Regarding this,I believe that there isone and just onemessage you need to deliver in your relationships. Delivering this message isthekey to strong relationships, and here it is:
You are important to me.
That’s it. No more, no less. Not “your money” nor “your knowledge”, but “you” - as a person - are important to me.Anything you should do in relationships stems from this message. There more you succeed in delivering this message, the more people will like you.
So here I’d like to share33 tips on how to deliver this message in your relationships. Consequently, these are also tips to become a well liked person. Here they are:
Give your contacts a big smile when you meet them. Make them feel that you are really happy to meet them.
Give your full attention to the people you converse with as if nothing else is important.
When they ask for your attention,leavewhatever you are doing.
When they call you, greet them with enthusiasm as if you are longing for their call.
Don’t make them wait.
Print the list of your contacts and look at it in your spare time. It will remind you of whom to touch base.
Alwaysreply your contacts’ emails and text messages.
Reply their emails and text messages in the first chance you get.
Shake their hands with enthusiasm.
Praise them sincerely when they do something good. Make them feel that you are proud of them.
Always return their calls.
Send a message to them on their birthdays. Even better, call them.
Drop your old contacts quick emails or text messages to ask howtheyare doing.
Remember their names and achievements.
Remember important facts about them, especially the things they really care about (you may want to write them down).
Introduce them to the people in your contact who may help them out.
Actively find the deepest needs they may have (without waiting for them to explicitly tell you).
Take initiativeto give them the solutions they need.
Give thanks for them in your session of gratitude.
Mention their names in your prayer.
Talk with them abouttheirlife.
Ask themspecificquestions about things they care about. They will realize that you care enough to remember their facts.
Give them something precious you have. Time is a good candidate.
Go eat with them. Even better, treat them.
When you meet them, don’t look at your watch as if you have something more important to do.
When you talk to them, don’t look over their shoulder as if you are looking for someone more important to talk to.
Send them quick tips or articles you just found which may benefit them.
Message them encouraging words or quotes.
Lend them the best books or DVDs you have.
Talk to them about how youlikeyour other friends. They will think that you may talk the same way about them.
Don’t talk negatively to them about how youdon’t likeyour other friends. They will think that you may also talk the same way about them.
Occasionally mention their names in your conversation with them.
Be creative to give them small surprises every now and then.
以下翻译由译言网友泽提供：
惹人喜爱，是大多数人在人际交往过程中想要达到的。益处很显然，就是在你需要帮助的时候，将会得到更多双援助之手，人们会给你带来你从来都不知道的关于新契机的信息。总之，他们会真正地关心你，呵护你。
但是，怎样才能使别人喜欢上自己呢 |
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