Creating Your Ideal Self

上海男人 · 发表于 2013-1-5 16:26

Successful men and women are very clear about the person they want to be. Having a clear picture of your ideal self will move you toward it.
Do you know exactly who do you want to be?
If not, take time to think about it. Try to write down your values, your skills, your attitude, your look, your behaviour. Stephen Covey suggests that you write down how you want to be remembered at your own funeral. This is a great exercise, because it will bring up your deepest and truest human values.
When you’re finished with the list, take time everyday to read it in the morning, then act accordingly all day long. At night, right before falling asleep, imagine yourself acting like the person you want to be, in all areas of your life. Imagine yourself being excellent at work, being very friendly with people, or having great sex with your lover. Imagining in your mind, is like practicing in reality. The mind will get used to the pictures of your success, and you will tend to act the ideal way in reality.

kanvic · 发表于 2013-1-5 16:37

You will have it if it belongs to you, whereas you cann’t kvetch for it if it doesn’t appear in your life

cx520x · 发表于 2013-1-5 20:05

that is good idea！ But I can not find the right direction！

上海男人 · 发表于 2013-1-6 09:23

cx520x 发表于 2013-1-5 20:05
that is good idea！ But I can not find the right direction！

try to figure out what do you want to be, but from my opinion is:
if you passed 35, you can just ignore this, because i think you already know what to do after so many years of being work. this article is a little help for the young teenager who is just graduated from the university.

hope it helpful, happy new year!

上海男人 · 发表于 2013-1-6 09:34

kanvic 发表于 2013-1-5 16:37
You will have it if it belongs to you, whereas you cann’t kvetch for it if it doesn’t appear in yo ...

well, no offence, i think you are totally a negtive person, the thing do not have it now does not mean that you can not pursue for it, or you can not have it for ever. for example, do you think that you can have a car ten years ago? how do you think about it?

but i am very glad that we can discuss! happy new year!

cx520x · 发表于 2013-1-6 22:02

上海男人发表于 2013-1-6 09:23
try to figure out what do you want to be, but from my opinion is:
if you passed 35, you can just ...

yes ，I am 24，I was graduated in 2011.Now，I am puzzled by my life.For example，my job and emotional life and so on.
I am very glad that you can reply me！ thank you！

cx520x · 发表于 2013-1-6 22:23

上海男人发表于 2013-1-6 09:34
well, no offence, i think you are totally a negtive person, the thing do not have it now does not ...

maybe.you are right ，I may not do a work all my life.At present ，I just think about three questions，frist find a good job and find a girl friend and last is have a house of own.
happy new year！